Marriage is definitely one of the biggest decision you will ever make in your life time. Many couples who have been married for a long time claim that love is not enough to survive a marriage. So before you plan with your partner on how to make your dream wedding come true whether it be in a garden, church or beach, check out this tips to tell if your partner is prepared for marriage, so you can both work the aisle with certainty and not anxiety.

 

here are some steps on how you can tell if your partner is ready for marriage:

 

Pay attention to the manner of your partner when talking. Observe if your partner applies the term “US” instead of “I”  when your he/she is conversing with his/her friends or family. It may not look that important, but it proves that he/ she is considering both of you as a couple rather than an individual.

 

Examine your partner’s friends to find out whether they are family-oriented, men/women or single men/women that live for a good night out and alcohol. Granting that it is not always reasonable to criticize individuals by their colleague’s lifestyle, it can give you a good idea of the standard your partner is looking for.

 

Discuss weddings with your lover. If you’re by this time engage with your partner, ask your fiancée if he/she is undergoing any anxiety or matters that the two of you have to talk over and discuss lay it all out on the table without delay so that you can both figure out how to solve the problems you’re dealing with and any setbacks.

 

Consider the financial stability. Money is indeed a big part of marriage. You will have to pay for the basic needs in life: rents, taxes, hospitalization, education of your children and of course your food. Discuss with your partner if possible how the both of you will share the expenses and whether you have saved enough money.

 

Ask what he/she thinks regarding what is in store for the both of you in the future in order to guarantee that you’re thinking in the same way. It is essential to have mutual ambitions as husband and wife, because it will lessen the differences you share. You also have to find out as much about yourselves as you can before you say the words “I DO”. If your partner is ready to chat with you regarding the upcoming marriage. Chances are big that he/she is prepared to be your husband/wife.

 

Marriage is an important matter: you should not rush things just because you want to have the fanciest wedding ceremony in town or just because you felt you are the spur of the moment. Living with someone for the rest of your life is not really that easy. You will tackle so many differences and disagreements along the way. Point of views will clash like a world war, but these are also the incidents that will make your bond with your souse much stronger. So make sure that you know your lover well enough to tell if you can handle these probable circumstances.

 

 

 

HOW TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE -SIMPLE TIPS TO PREVENTING A  DIVORCE

 

HOW DO I SAVE MY MARRIAGE? This is probably a question that many people ask every day. It is really sad to think that most marriages start with so many promises only to wind up in a place either one person or both are asking themselves why they got into it in the first place and giving the facts that most marriages start so great with a big wedding, a great honey moon and then the first year of total bliss.

 

Typically what happens is that over time we start to take why we got married for granted and forget the reasons we were attracted to our spouse in the first place. For many, our spouses start to fill more like a burden or dead weight than they feel like an equal partner in which we are sharing. In other cases a spouse may feel like they are pulling all the weight and having to do everything which could lead to resentment.

 

One of the biggest factors for me is to understand that lives come In different stages although it will be very nice to have that honey moon feelings for ever. The reality is that life will start o get in the way. At times, our spouse may be in a different stages than us and fell like we are holding them back from what ever it is they are trying to achieve.

It is important for both the spouses to realize this and to understand that there may be years that won’t be so great. In the case of dealing with your life partner, understanding and weathering through the hard times can be the difference between getting a divorce or having a partner for life