There are times when relationships become troubled for one reason or another, many times it is just life getting in the way. It is easy to let the relationship go to the way side as work, kids and other stresses fill up our days, it  is this time that one must figure out what they need to do to rebuild there relationship again. It isn’t ever easy; it always takes work, however you can rebuild your troubled relationship and have a good one again. Even the most troubled of all relationships can be rebuilt to one that is strong and will stand the test of time.

 

COMMITMENT….. The first step to rebuild your relationship is commitment. If both parties are committed to making it work it can work. However, if one party refuses to to commit to the process of rebuilding the relationship, then it is bound to fail. It will take both people working hard and taking time to make it work in order for it to succeed. Often times this is a commitment that both parties needs to make regularly. Whatever caused stress on the relationship is still going to be there and they both needs to be determined to make it go through.

Both people should sit down and talk about whether or not they want to be committed making it work. It isn’t enough to assume the other person wants to be there to working hard. After all, if one person works really hard then they may be shocked to find out that it isn’t working and that the other person is ready to throw in the towel. Once both parties have made a clear commitment to working on rebuilding and repairing the relationship the work can begin.

NOTE that if both people aren’t willing to commit then rebuilding the relationship is not possible

 

COMMUNICATION…….Most people know that communication is important for a good relationship, but few realize that it is the key to rebuilding a bad relationship. Both people need to talk and talk about everything. This isn’t always easy to do, especially when there have been emotions involved and feelings have been hurts. This is something that has to continue on for a while. It takes work to build communication each and every day. Some days it will be easy others it will be really hard.

Make time to sit down and talk. Use this time to talk about everything and anything, but make sure you don’t end up fighting.

 

UNDERSTANDING LOVE…..Love is one of the most complicated things to understand on this planet. It is a word we use in so many ways and often it is hard to define. We can say things like I love blueberry muffins just after saying I love you. It also something that confused with a fluttery emotion. We call this IN LOVE. Usually it is the in love feelings that get relationships started, but over time this emotions fade, the heart doesn’t beat as fast as it once did and the sight of your partner doesn’t make you go weak in the knees and longer. Many times it is easy to feel that you have fallen out of love once this emotion that makes us feel so high are gone.

 

 

 

 

 However real love is much deeper than that and if we remember that real love is unconditional and way beyond emotion and it will take us a long way in building our relationship and in keeping them strong.

Don’t base love on how you feel because feelings change like the wind and love is deeper than that.

 

FALLING IN LOVE AGAIN…….while we shouldn’t be dependent upon feel good emotions of in love it is undeniable that these emotions makes us feel good and make it easy to want to be with a person. While these emotions often fade as life steps in, there are things that we can do to “”fall back in love”” with our partners. This can be done by dating, doing things you both enjoy and spend quality time together (both with and without kids). It is not something that will happen in a single night or even a week, but taking the time to remember what you love about the other person, about the things that brought you together and about the things you enjoyed back in the day.

Remember your dating times. This is when the in love feelings happen and often it has to do with how we act and the things we do during this times.

Try to be romantic and work and lighting the fires again.

 

BUILDING TRUST…… Trust is a hard thing to build. Whether you have done something major to break trust such as cheating or you haven’t done anything you can think of, that would break the trust the other person has, you will need to take time to build the trust back up. Often it only takes the emotion and feelings that the other person has to feel like trust has been broken. To build trust you will need to give it time, talk often and be aware of the feelings the other person has. Don’t upset if they need reassurance from you

Tips…..trust is easy to build and hard to rebuild. Be kind, understanding, and trustworthy and it will happen.

 

TIME…… They say time is a healer, and this is certainly the case. Scars may always exist on your relationship, however if you give it time and work toward rebuilding it, you can have a better relationship one that is strong and can stand for a test of time. You must give it time. It could take weeks, months, or even years but if you work at it and continue to build and continue to build and grow then you will rebuild the relationship.

No matter what has happened, or what hasn’t happened your troubled relationship can be better. It takes commitment, understanding, work and time, but it can be done. Your relationship can be better than it ever was before and you can have successful long lasting relationship